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20 Inspiring Middle Eastern Influencers You Should Follow Right Now

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I always thought I understood what it meant when people said "representation matters," but I really didn't know what I was missing until I challenged myself to put together a list of successful female influencers from the Middle East.

What I found was a group of brilliant young women who work and inspire a whole new world. Having someone who looks like you to look up to (or culling inspiration from someone who looks like you but lives a completely different reality) can be incredibly impactful. This roster of Instagram influencers is like seeing 20 versions of me and realizing what people like me are able to achieve. From the first woman to swim the Thames river to the Arab versions of Kendall and Kylie Jenner, click on to meet our favorite Middle Eastern and North African influencers.

Taim AlFalasi

The 25-year-old Dubai native has already been named one of the "100 Most Powerful Arabs Under 40 " by Arabian Business. She is known for her flawless style – her wardrobe and her brows are major goals – as well as for her openness on how to cope with being a young, ambitious woman in the Middle Eastern media. AlFalasi currently has 2.3 million Instagram followers and almost 500k on Youtube. Oh, and a hit radio show.

Photo: Taim AlFalasi.

Thana & Sakhaa Abdul

Basically the Saudi version of Kendall & Kylie, these two Medina natives moved to London almost 13 years ago, and have been fascinated by fashion ever since. Their Instagram account and their blog, The Abduls, take you into their closets and around the world on fashion shoots and runways. The two are also the founders of Coded Nation, "a multi-brand e-commerce boutique where the sisters spotlight emerging designers and up-and-coming brands." It's not necessarily an e-tailer with something for everyone, per se, but, as Thana put it in an interview with Vogue Arabia, "it's everything to someone."

Poto: The Abduls.

Zahra Lari

Lari is the first Saudi figure skater to compete internationally after having won several national championships. She is also part of Nike's Middle East ad campaign, and the brand's first Pro Hijab campaign that recently sparked controversy.

Photo: Zahra Lari.

Najla Kaddour

Najla Kaddour is one of the most successful makeup artists in the Middle East. While blogging and sharing makeup tutorials, she has also established herself as the go-to person in the Arab world for stars like, oh, J.Lo.

Photo: Najla Kaddour.

Saufeeya Goodson

This North Carolina native grew up in Dubai and truly shows what it means to be a citizen of the world. She has co-founded the influential Instagram account Hijab Fashion that gives inspiration and styling advice for all women following the Hijab. On her personal blog, Feeeya.com, and her Instagram account, you can follow along on whatever adventures she may take you, from her photo shoot for Vogue Arabia to the Dubai World Cup. Goodson is probably one of the coolest kids on the modest fashion block right now and you should absolutely tag along.

Photo: Saufeeya Goodson.

Anum Bashir

"Clothes are best served with a side of intellect," reads Bashir's blog, Desert Mannequin. And she actually makes an effort to follow through on that. The Qatari art and fashion consultant has been featured in some of the biggest local fashion magazines, such as Harper's Bazaar Arabia, but has even managed to make appearances in the German weekly, Die Zeit, and American Vogue. While she's definitely an expert on style and design, she makes a point of translating to the Western world that there is not one singular image of "the oppressed Middle Eastern woman" but that they, in fact, are more independent, fearless and fierce than you might think.

Photo: Desert Mannequin.

Maria Alia

Born and raised in New York, this half-Palestinian, half-Puerto Rican is goals on so many levels. Whether she's working out or roaming the streets of the NYC, donning everything from ball gown to hoodies and sweatpants, Alia's style is always on point. She is also part of a generation that transcends differences; she makes a point of empowering and supporting other women by bridging gaps so many before her thought impossible to overcome.

Photo: Maria Alia.

Nadya Hasan

Hasan is a UAE-born fashion designer and blogger. On her blog, The Fierce Diaries, she gives beauty, travel, and just plain awesome lifestyle advice.

In 2015, Hasan launched her first shoe collection. "When I started working on the design of the shoes, I really wanted to bring back the ‘20s. The women from that era were simply fabulous," she explained in an interview with Vogue, citing the era as a main source of inspiration. "Their style was a mix of masculine and feminine and the ‘20s also made a significant mark on the fashion industry; hemlines were cut above the ankle and women paid more attention to wearing shoes that they could show off."

Photo: Nadya Hasan.

Dina Tokio

Dina Tokio is basically the poster child of the self-made millennial woman: Born in Cairo to a British mom and an Egyptian dad, she is now U.K.-based and has evolved to become a style icon, a successful YouTuber and instagrammer, a proud representative of modest fashion, a mother and a wife. Scrolling down her Insta feed, you'll probably wish she were your BFF, or that she'd at least give you a much-needed spring makeover. But, alas, Dina has already made plans with gran. (Good for her.)

Photo: Dina Tokio.

Amani Al-Khatahtbeh

Al-Khatahtbeh is a published author, a writer and an editor, she has her own YouTube channel and she's an outspoken activist. She is the founder and editor of Muslim Girl, a media platform that shows life in the US through the eyes of young Muslim women. Muslim Girl, together with Getty, just launched the first stock photo collection of Muslim girls and women. Representation of Muslim women in the media has mostly been very stereotypical, and doesn't "really capture the spectrum of Muslim women," Al-Khatahtbeh told Refinery29. "There are women of different skin colors and body types, women who choose to veil and women who choose not to."

Photo: Amani Al-Khatahtbeh.

Ascia AKF

This Kuwaiti-American is a true beauty and fashion pro, collaborating with other influencers, such as British-Egpytian Dina Tokio, or platforms like Net-a-Porter. Ascia and her husband, Ahmad, also jointly run a blog, The Hybrids.

Photo: Ascia Akf.

Deena Aljuhani Abdulaziz

Princess Deena Aljuhani Abdulaziz was born in California but now lives in Dubai most of the time. The 42-year old royal (yup, she's a real princess) is the editor-in-chief of newly launched Vogue Arabia, but has been a familiar face in the fashion scene for quite some time. I personally admire her because she simply does what she does, and in doing so, she tears down prejudices and stereotypes about how Middle Eastern women look or are portrayed. Abdulaziz is a child of the East and the West, two worlds that some people still consider as clashing – until she proves them wrong by making it look effortless and natural.

Photo: Dina Litovsky.

Mariam Saleh Binladen

Mariam Binladen has set a world record: she was the first woman, and third person overall, to swim the entire Thames river. The Saudi dentist did this, as chronicled in the documentary I Am Mariam Binladen, to raise awareness for the medical needs of Syrian refugees. She has been working with other doctors to help those who had to flee their home country – and she wants you to notice.

Photo: Mariam Saleh Binladen.

Yalda Golsharifi

Yalda Golsharifi is a film school graduate-turned-entrepreneur and a part-time lifestyle editor for the Kuwait Times. She is currently the face of L'Oreal's Middle East campaign while also running her own beauty salon and an online fashion store.

Photo: Yalda Golsharifi.

Halima Aden

Just year, Halima Aden made history by being the first woman to compete in a beauty pageant sporting a hijab and wearing a burkini. She then went on to become the first hijabi on a major runway during NYFW's fall 2017 shows, walking Kanye West's Yeezy catwalk, and has been slaying ever since – which is also why she is the exception to my rule. Originally hailing from Somalia, Aden spent the first six years of her childhood in a Kenyan refugee camp before moving to the US. She is a woman who knows what it means to hustle and to prove mainstream expectations wrong – which is something that a lot of women from Northern Africa and the Arabian peninsula can relate to.

Photo: Halima Aden.

Darin Al Bayed

Al Bayed was born in Libanon but is currently based in Saudi Arabia. She is part of a movement of young women who have turned to the gone online to speak up against oppression of and clichés about Middle Eastern women. In her videos, the 21-year old uses comedy to reflect and shed a light on topics small and big, from relationship advice to critical subjects in Saudi society. With more than 37 million views on YouTube and 3.8 million followers on Instagram, we're guessing she's being heard.

Photo: Darin Al Bayed.

Huda Kattan

No list of Middle Eastern influencers would be complete without Huda Kattan. This makeup artist and beauty entrepreneur has it all: her own line of makeup and beauty products, a beauty closet that's to die for, and an easy 18 million followers on Instagram and 1.7 million on Youtube.

Photo: Huda Kattan.

Tara Emad

Tara Emad has been acting ever since high school. She actually chose acting over studying biotechnology or psychology at American University of Cairo. However, she is still taking online psychology classes on the side and plans to re-enter university to get a degree. For now, online is serving her just fine because, she says, "it’s not about school and university, it’s about the entire process that’s called life; you learn every day."

Until her breakthrough in psychology, this 24-year old will have enough to do: She's already founded a charity that helps people in need in and around Cairo. In her free time, Emad is a passionate painter and produces her own organic lip balm.

Photo: Tara Emad.

Imaan Hammam

Hammam was born in the Netherlands to a Moroccan mother and an Egyptian father. She's modeled for everyone from Oscar de la Renta and Dior to Chanel and Prada, and is one of the most in-demand models these days. Hammam is open about her religion as well as about her body.

Photo: Imaan Hammam.

Jamila Awad

This 20-year old is an actress and an activist; in the Egyptian TV show Taht Al Saytara, Awad plays 16-year old Hania, a rebellious young woman who's falling victim to drug abuse. Awad is proud to be a trailblazer and to raise awareness about longstanding issues that have been taboo for far too long: When teenagers, or people at any age, don’t belong to the family, they’ll belong somewhere else by doing a common activity," she says in an interview with WhatWomenWant Mag, and sometimes that'll even be narcotics. "I think there should be more awareness about the way parents should deal with their children and the way innocent curiosity should be dealt with."

Photo: Jamila Awad.

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The Unusual Way One Country Is Highlighting Sexual Harassment

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Even as the public’s awareness of sexist behavior, and what constitutes consent, continues to grow, sadly women still face sexual harassment in public places as they go about their daily lives – in 2017.

Public transport is a breeding ground for such threatening behavior, with its jam-packed trains and the pressure to keep our heads down and not cause a scene when faced with unacceptable conduct. Unwilling to sit back and watch women being sexually harassed on its premises, the Mexico City Metro has come up with an unusual way to draw attention to the problem.

As its name suggests, the so-called "penis seat" isn’t your average uncomfortable subway seat. The plastic seat is moulded in the shape of a man, and features a chest with nipples and a belly button, legs and – here’s the kicker – a flaccid penis.

The seat is “exclusive for men,” according to an accompanying sign, and is designed to give them an insight into how uncomfortable it is to experience sexual harassment on public transport, reports the Mirror.

"It’s uncomfortable to sit here but it doesn’t compare with the sexual violence that women suffer in their everyday lives," so reads a notice on the floor beneath the seat.

An accompanying campaign video, which admittedly looks a little staged, shows commuters looking perplexedly at the chair and men’s baffled reactions – and subsequent embarrassment – upon sitting on it.

“Nine out of 10 women in Mexico City have been victims of some form of sexual violence,” reads the end slide of the full-length video. It's a shocking statistic that certainly warrants an attention-grabbing stunt of this nature.

A previous campaign from the team behind the "penis seat" involved filming men's bums and projecting them onto screens in the city's underground stations to highlight sexism against women, the Mirror reported.

While a single chair on one city's metro system probably won't solve the problem of sexual harassment, it has at least shone a spotlight on the issue.

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LGBTQ Rainbow Flag Creator Gilbert Baker Passes Away

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Gilbert Baker, the designer of the rainbow flag, which has become a worldwide symbol for the LBGTQ community, has passed away at the age of 65. While his legacy to humanity will always be the beloved rainbow flag, it is crucial to remember the man and life behind the design.

Baker was born in Chanute, KS, in 1951 — a time when gay and questioning people did not have the same social liberties they have now. He joined the Army in 1970 and was stationed as a medic in San Francisco, where he worked at a hospital for returning Vietnam veterans. At that time, the city was in the midst of its queer revolution, as well as Vietnam War protests and Harvey Milk’s political organizing and election for City Supervisor, whom Baker befriended. Gilbert Baker participated in city’s queer demonstrations by sewing flags and banners and in 1978, Milk, among others, asked Baker, the self-described “gay Betsey Ross,” to design a flag to represent the movement as a whole. Baker’s rainbow flag was unveiled at San Francisco's Pride Parade that year, and immediately became associated with queer visibility.

Until we had a flag, the symbol for our movement was the pink triangle, which was put on us by Hitler and the Nazis,” Baker told Refinery29 in a 2015 interview. “The triangle came from a very negative, terrible place. We needed something that expressed our beauty, our soul, our love — that came from us and wasn’t put on us.”

The flag’s initial design had eight colors, not the six we know today. It was changed to six colors because at the time, Baker said that pink dye was “too expensive,” reports the New York Times, and blue and turquoise were later merged into royal blue to represent harmony. Red stands for life, orange is healing, yellow is sunlight, green represents nature, and violet purple stands for spirit.

Both Baker and his legendary design have seen some of the darkest and brightest times in queer history. In November 1978, the same year the flag was introduced, his friend Harvey Milk was assassinated. In the '80s, the AIDS epidemic was killing thousands, and protests erupted against the Reagan administration's silence and refusal to provide federal funds for healthcare and research to fight AIDS. The AIDS Memorial Quilt, featuring many images of the rainbow flag, was presented on the National Mall in 1987. Through the '90s and 2000s, Pride parades took place in major cities across the country and the world as states began decriminalizing their sodomy laws which lead to Lawrence vs. Texas’ Supreme Court decision to reverse them nationwide in 2003. When the Supreme Court further upheld the Equal Rights clause under Obergefell vs. Hodges in December 2015, queer Americans could finally marry their same-gender partner in all 50 states. The rainbow flag was waved on the steps of the Court, at impromptu parades in the streets, and its six colors lit up the Obama White House in celebration.

Gilbert Baker later went on to work as a vexillographer for the Paramount Flag Company in San Francisco, but always knew the rainbow flag was his life’s proudest achievement. He famously refused to patent or trademark his design, allowing it to be used commonly on clothing, artwork — just about anywhere that can be printed. His gift to humanity is a symbol that is as beloved as it is easily recognizable, that proclaims its visibility loudly and with pride, and mirrors the beauty of the natural world with the beauty of the diverse community it represents.

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Watching Porn Online Just Became Much More Secure

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If you did your best to clear your browser history, opt out of data collection, and even researched what a VPN is in the wake of last week's internet privacy legislation, good job. But, it seems that internet users aren't the only ones reacting to the legislation. Pornhub, which requires no introduction, announced that it will now use HTTPS encryption to keep its user's browsing habits as private as possible.

According to Engadget, HTTPS encrypts the connection between your browser and any servers that it connects to. No, that doesn't mean that you'll be magically invisible thanks to the extra layer of protection, but it does mean that almost all of your browsing gets concealed aside from top-level domains. So, yes, someone can dig a bit and know that you visited Pornhub, but beyond that, they can't get into what you did while you were browsing the site, what videos you pulled up, or what you searched for.

"Here at Pornhub, with more than 70 million daily visitors, we wanted to continue our concerted effort to maximize the privacy of our users, ensuring that what they do on our platform remains strictly confidential," Corey Price, Pornhub's vice president, said in a statement. "At the end of the day, we want every single one of them to feel safe and secure on our platform."

Engadget adds that while many sites around the 'net have already adopted HTTPS encryption, adult sites haven't been as quick as online retailers and news outlets. In fact, a Google Transparency Report found that only "three out of 11 adult websites listed are HTTPS."

With 70 million daily visitors, the streaming site is setting a precedent that shows sites and internet users alike are not happy to have data shared without their consent or knowledge.

While it's not a perfect solution to keeping browsing history 100% private, HTTPS encryption is a huge step forward. If you want to make sure that your data is under wraps, we've got some tips.

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30 Perfect Looks To Copy This April

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You know what's weird about changing seasons? The fact that every time the weather shifts ever so slightly, we immediately feel like we need to go out and buy an entirely new wardrobe. Why is it that the pieces we wore (and likely purchased) just a year ago suddenly feel so...blah? As spring approaches, this time around we're vowing to give those items a second pass before pushing them to the back of our closet.

Of course, we love shopping as much as the next person. And with fashion's consistent rotation of trends, it's impossible to not want to score the of-the-moment ruffled top or ribbon-decorated flats for yourself. But when it comes to more timeless pieces you likely already have, things like a white button-up, a pair of frayed hem jeans, or even a floral dress, it's about coming up with new ways to style them (and how to use your new, trend-oriented pieces to accentuate them). A solid foundation closet will go a long way, regardless of the weather outside — and the 30 looks ahead will show you just how to mix the old with the new. Here's to an April full of really, really good outfits.

If you're a fan of monochromatic looks, you've probably been wearing all-black or all-gray ones all winter long. Switch it up for spring with a brighter (but still neutral) hue, like this army green shade.

Esby Apparel pants, Mari Giudicelli shoes.

Photo via @nikishabrunson.

It's time to break out those mini skirts. We love the athletic-feel of this version. Tennis, anyone?

OYE Swimwear bathing suit, Gucci skirt, Pedro Garcia shoes, Cult Gaia bag.

Photo via @alwaysjudging.

When you're wearing a bold outfit, forget going subtle with the accessories. Consider this color-blocking 2.0.

Photo via @amarachiukachu.

Regardless of the season, we're always into piling on as many denim pieces as possible.

Lost Ink top, Monki jacket.

Photo via @asos_hannah.

Tie a classic button-up at the waist for a D.I.Y. crop top. Because really, what's better than getting two shirts for the price of one?

ASOS top and pants.

Photo via @asos_lauren.

Skip the bomber jacket this season for an old-school varsity-style piece.

Champion top, ASOS pants.

Photo via @asos_olive.

That oversized blazer you've been wearing all winter long? Skip the pants, button it all the way up, and turn it into a mini dress.

The Frankie Shop jacket, W Concept shoes, Little Liffner bag.

Photo via @double3xposure.

One look at this outfit and we're pretty convinced gingham is our favorite warm-weather print.

Minimum Fashion top.

Photo via @emilisindlev.

Yellow is the color du jour. Embrace it. Love it.

By Malene Birger jacket and pants, Puma shoes.

Photo via @guriheli.

Sick of your plain black flats? Opt for a pair with a little bit of detailing, like this front-bow option. Too cute.

Selima Optique sunglasses.

Photo via @indyabrown.

The easiest, no-fail, always-looks-good outfit? A killer matching set and a pair of sneakers. Done and done.

Photo via @itsmekellieb.

See all the difference our favorite $1 accessory can make?

Photo via @julianasalazar.

Turn your go-to shirtdress into a longline top by only buttoning the top half and wearing it with a pair of skinny jeans.

Eloquii dress.

Photo via @kellyaugustineb.

You can't go wrong with a graphic tee, especially when it's one that gives off major Carrie Bradshaw vibes.

Dior top, Levi's pants, Topshop jacket, Vans shoes.

Photo via @latelyivebeenme.

Fanny pack, but make it fashion. (Seriously, designers are making a solid case for the waist-bag comeback).

Barbara Kwater dress, Favstine Paris bag.

Photo via @lifeofboheme.

Metallic clothing isn't just for New Year's Eve. Let this look convince you that super-shiny fabric is truly versatile.

Stay Sunny Chicago skirt, VIUeyewear glasses.

Photo via @lottaliinalove.

This season, the bigger the clothing, the better. Here's how to give the oversized aesthetic a try.

H&M top, Zyne shoes, Uterque bag, OSB Vintage earrings.

Photo via @maria_bernad.

Fishnets look just as good in spring as they do in winter.

Photo via @oliviafayesmith.

If you're not into shorts, try a looser, longer Bermuda pair.

Photo via @oursecondskin.

Knee-high boots! It doesn't matter how short or tall you are, just give them a go!

Ganni skirt, By Malene Birger shoes.

Photo via @pandorasykes.

Pull a Balenciaga on chillier days and add a pair of bright-colored tights to any look.

Nike shoes, Loewe bag.

Photo via @pantouflard_.

If you don't already have a pair, add some raw-hem denim to your arsenal. The little things go a long way.

ASOS pants.

Photo via @patylicious_diary.

Pattern-mixing is never not a good idea.

City Chic dress, Evans Clothing jacket, H&M shoes.

Photo via @psitsfashion.

Cinch your favorite floral dress at the waist with a thick belt (or corset, if you're into that) for added dimension.

Horror Vacui dress, Hermes belt, Celine sunglasses.

Photo via @robertabenteler.

Use an extra-large white button-up as a layering piece by styling it over a T-shirt and pair of jeans. It's an easy (and affordable) way to get that straight-off-the-runway look.

PSC T-shirt, WEEKDAY top, Loewe bag.

Photo via @ropesofholland.

This skirt suit is very '80s, and we're very much here for it.

Balmain jacket and skirt, Valentino shoes, Dior sunglasses.

Photo via @shionat.

Warmer days mean warmer colors. How comfortable (but cool) does this all-cream outfit look?

Mango jacket, Massimo Dutti pants, Dorateymur shoes.

Photo via @shotfromthestreet.

Because two bright colors are always better than one.

Enes Antwerpen top and dress.

Photo via @sofievalkiers.

Here's how to wear your Nikes like a street style star.

MM6 dress, Topshop jacket, Nike shoes, Zara bag.

Photo via @sorayabakhtiar.

The kitten heel trend is still going strong. Wear your pointed-toe boots into spring by pairing them with light-colored pieces.

WEEKDAY top, Topshop pants, vintage Gucci shoes.

Photo via @stephaniebroek.

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J.Lo Always Wears These 5 Beauty Trends — & No One Has Noticed

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Jennifer Lopez is a national treasure. She gave us "Jenny from the Block" and "Waiting for Tonight." She inspired us to learn self-defense with Enough. And her current Vegas show is one of few reasons to consider a trip there. Basically, she's a gift that keeps on giving, even down to her beauty look. From her honey-blonde hair and bronzed skin to flawless smoky eyes, we want everything she's serving up.

Ahead, we're paying tribute to the golden girl's glamour over the years by taking a quick trip down memory lane to see the five things she consistently does with her hair and makeup to look so damn good. Get ready to take notes.

1. Metallic & White

Lopez loves bronze, gold, and copper eyeshadows, and she tends to pair those shades with another color: white. It's an age-old makeup trick that instantly brightens eyes and complexions.

Photo: Frederick M. Brown/Getty Images.

Not only does the white liner (we love this one from Nyx Cosmetics) conceal redness and wake up the face, but it makes Lopez's metallic shadow pop even more.

Photo: Frederick M. Brown/Getty Images.

2. Long Acrylic Nails

If you haven't noticed Lopez's nails before, we don't blame you. It's hard to look away from the star's radiant skin and sultry eyes, but her manicures are equally on point.

Photo: Kevin Winter/Getty Images.

Typically, Lopez goes for a round nail shape, but she's been known to opt for a more tapered effect, too. Time to hit up your favorite nail salon for the look.

Photo: Charley Gallay/AMA2015/Getty Images.

3. Body Makeup

J.Lo's skin glows — there's no denying that. But it isn't just her face that gets the bronze-and-go treatment: Her entire body does, too.

Photo: John Parra/WireImage.

Lopez employs a host of body contouring techniques, oils, and self-tanners to achieve her flawlessly radiant skin.

Photo: Emma McIntyre/Getty Images.

4. Peach Palette

Lopez's makeup looks usually veer dramatic on the eyes and neutral on the lips. But rather than reaching for a typical tawny nude shade, she opts for brighter peach tones.

Photo: Jason Merritt/Getty Images.

We don't blame her: The apricot color flatters a range of skin tones and pairs well with pretty much any hair look, makeup style, or outfit.

Photo: Jason Merritt/Getty Images.

5. Contour Queen

J.Lo makes her already enviable features that much more standout by highlighting and contouring them to perfection.

Photo: John Sciulli/Getty Images.

She highlights the usual places — bridge of the nose, cheekbones, chin, and inner corners of the eyes — but we're willing to bet she does a few strokes on her clavicle, legs, and arms, too.

Photo: Alberto E. Rodriguez/Getty Images.

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Students At This School Won't Learn About Oral Or Anal Sex After Parents Protested

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What do you remember from sex ed? Just that it was probably inadequate and involved putting a condom on a banana? In a move to actually discuss sex, a California school district proposed adding clear the definitions of oral, anal, and even vaginal sex to its sex-ed curriculum. Well, middle schoolers in Cupertino won't learn about any of that in the classroom, because over 150 parents protested the new additions and overturned the district's changes.

San Jose's Mercury News reports that parents in the Cupertino School District described the controversial curriculum as "too graphic" and inappropriate. At a school board meeting, over 50 parents submitted comment cards and a Change.org petition calling for revisions collected over 4,300 signatures before the meeting even convened. Parents added that the new curriculum approached sex and health education from the viewpoint that the students were already sexually active.

"The chosen textbook is age inappropriate and has detailed, graphic description of oral, anal, and vaginal sex. These are taught in a mixed-gender group and activities require explicit topics to be explored and discussed among seventh graders," the petition reads. "The scenarios described in the curriculum are designed to increase curiosity on different sexual behaviors in immature minds." The petition also included an image of the textbook, which clearly defines several sexual acts.

The district's proposed changes were in reaction to a law called the California Healthy Youth Act, signed by California Governor Jerry Brown back in October 2015. It mandates that all students in grades seven through 12 receive "comprehensive sexual health education and HIV prevention education." If the Cupertino School District fails to comply, it could face fines, which is exactly what happened to another district in Fresno, CA.

The Cupertino School District was still using a curriculum from 2003. Teen Vogue reports that Kristina Everhardt, a teacher in the Cupertino School District, described the old lesson plan as too focused on heterosexual, male-female sex. She also noted that one of the videos that she showed last year depicted boys as "only looking for sex" and focused on the importance of girls protecting their virginity.

"We hope with every fiber of our being that our seventh-graders are not sexually active," Barbara Wolley, an educator tasked with updating the sex-ed courses, told the Mercury News. "But we also know in reality, it's going to come to a point where they need to know this information."

Because the changes didn't get approved, the Cupertino School District will continue to use the lesson plans from 2003. The school board said that it was too late in the school year to assemble a task force, propose a new curriculum, and train teachers.

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We Never Noticed This Mistake In Clueless Before

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Photo: Paramount Pictures

Clueless easily ranks as one of my most-watched movies, which is why I'm totally buggin' about this major mistake in the '90s flick. Eagle-eyed fans found a glaring continuity error in Clueless and it will drive you totally crazy once you notice it.

As fans know, Cher's last name is Horowitz. However, someone may want to tell Cher's high school that fact, because in the scene in which Cher gives her father Mel her report card, it clearly says that her last name is Cher Hamilton. It's not the only time the Horowitz name was swapped out for Hamilton: Cher's father tosses a piece of mail addressed to Melvin Hamilton.

So what's the reason for this error? The goof could potentially be blamed on the props department, who gave the Horowitz clan a new moniker. It's possible that Cher and her dad had different last names in a previous version of the script, and that these names ended up on a few props that made it to the big screen.

However, one person has a different theory as to why we're seeing Hamilton instead of Horowitz. Thought Catalog writer Nico Lang suggests that the name Hamilton was a reference to the 1982 film Fast Times At Ridgemont High, the directorial debut of Clueless writer/director Amy Heckerling. That film starred Jennifer Jason Leigh as Stacy Hamilton, another high school student navigating her teen years. It's possible this Clueless "error" wasn't an error at all, but an homage to another teen movie.

Whatever the reason behind Cher's name swap, this is one error that you can't unsee.

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The Internet Is Shooting Down This Prom Proposal For Being Racist

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Promposal season has officially arrived. But this year, mixed in among the romantic runs and thematic bath bombs, we have an unfortunate display that got two high school students suspended.

The two students in question, from Monarch High School in Coconut Creek, FL, asked a third student to prom via a social media post that reads as racist. It all started with an Instagram post from a now-defunct account showing three smiling teenage girls, two white and one black, holding up a cardboard sign reading, “You may be picking cotton, but we’re picking you to go to prom with us.” The caption read simply, "She said yes."

The promposal began as "just a joke," students from the school told CBS4. The girls, who reportedly play on a softball team together, meant the poster as an inside joke for the girl in the center, who attends homeschool and whose family owns a cotton farm. The controversial image became public fodder last week when Monarch High School alum Jon Aro shared a screenshot of it on Twitter alongside the caption, “it is two thousand and fucking seventeen."

Aro's tweet has since been liked more than 11,000 times, retweeted more than 8,000 times, and sparked a plethora of angry internet commentary, including a strongly worded Instagram rebuttal from Grey's Anatomy actor and activist Jesse Williams. "Trash and tragedy the likes of this requires a great many failures, lies and omissions, working in concert, publicly and privately, to achieve this level of destructive dumbfuckery," he captioned the image.

Ashley Graham shared a screenshot of Williams' post on her Instagram this morning, with his words outlined for emphasis. She was not alone. Many have taken to Twitter to share their shock and anger - including some Monarch High School classmates.

Many were most disturbed that the black girl who received the problematic prom proposal not only said yes but also apparently happily agreed to having her picture taken with the sign.

The students have since been suspended, pending further investigation of the incident, and have issued statements of apology through their parents.

“The father of one of the students holding the sign says it was an unfortunate inside joke that was never meant to be seen on social media," reports ABC Local 10 News. "Through their parents, all the girls have apologized.”

"They really want to apologize for their extremely poor choice of words in this situation," added the father of another student. "They would like to take it back. They would like to find a different way to express this invitation to prom."

A different way, indeed.

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Amber Heard Is Suing The Producer Of Her Latest Movie For Sexploitation

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Amber Heard is 100% not here for nonsense. E! reports that Heard is countersuing the production company of her latest film, the as-yet unreleased London Fields, who themselves allege that she breached her contract. The cross lawsuits stem from a dispute over a sex scene.

Heard showed up at the hearing, explaining via her counsel that the sex scene in question was explicit, pornographic, and used a body double - to which Heard did not consent. Heard further alleges that the shoot took place in secret after she had wrapped her performance and exited the set.

Heard's legal team also allege that she has specifically signed a nudity rider, which states that she “shall have the right to view the nude and sex scenes and approve such scenes, which contain straight-on nipple or below-the-waist frontal nudity once the final cut of the picture has been completed and prior to any public viewing of the picture.” In other words, that she has final say over any nude/sex scenes edited into the finished film.

Body doubles for explicit sex scenes are common in Hollywood. Lars von Trier’s two-part film Nymphomanic even utilized porn actors to film the sexier scenes, and digitally altered to place Shia LaBeouf and Stacy Martin’s faces onto the body doubles to make the scene appear more realistic.

It’s not clear from the lawsuit if this editing technique was used on London Fields, mainly because Heard’s suit may prevent the film from being released at all. As part of the relief she is seeking, Heard wants an injunction placed against any distribution of the film. It safe to assume that, given her previously willingness to go nude on camera in previous movies like The Informer, she really must have felt like her rights were violated to go forward with a lawsuit that may block her work from being shown.

As Heard said in her powerful sexual assault PSA, “violence against women...is also about how to deal with it and talk about it in the media”.

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The Grey's Anatomy Cast Are Sharing Spoilers About The Season 13 Finale

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Fans of Grey's Anatomy are counting down the days until the show's season 13 finale. After Ellen Pompeo's directorial debut dazzled on Thursday and left plenty of suspense for not only Meredith Grey, but for many of the show's other characters, viewers are digging for clues that'll give any detail about the finale.

Thankfully, many of the show's stars are being generous on Instagram, posting snapshots from the show's last day of filming. While the cast might not be offering straight-up spoilers, there are some clues for eagle-eyed sleuths.

Pompeo posted a snapshot of co-star Justin Chambers giving off major James Dean vibes. "Thank you for being you and having that thing you have that makes us all love you you're a mesmerizing talent and a great friend," she wrote.

Understandably, this caused fans to freak out. It sure sounds like a goodbye, but nothing's for sure. While many of the cast members have already confirmed their returns for season 14, Chambers isn't one of them. Final negotiations won't happen until June, so is this a premature farewell to Alex or a diversionary tactic from Pompeo?

A few of the actors have already revealed that this season won't end with a catastrophic event (no plane crashes, sorry), but we do know that there is major drama afoot, especially with Riggs and Maggie. The Grey Sloan crew was all smiles on set, however, so either they're great at compartmentalizing or there is nothing earth-shattering happening in the finale.

There were several videos of Debbie Allen on set wearing what looks like a throwback to the heyday of Juicy Couture. Does her pink hoodie have anything to do with where the show's headed? Is Grey's immune to nostalgia and athleisure? We think it might just be Allen getting cozy between takes, especially with that electric-purple fur thrown over her ensemble. Here's hoping that epic outerwear makes a cameo during the season finale.

Sarah Drew posted a few shots from the set, too. She and Jesse Williams are outside, much like the other cast members during the finale filming. Does this mean something's going down outside — namely, where ambulances end up, and more generally terrible things happen — the hospital proper?

Also notable is her use of the #Japril hastag. Fingers crossed that these two either come back together or split up for real before the season wraps.

Late night shenanigans. #finale #japril @ijessewilliams

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What do we know for sure? Glee alum Matthew Morrison will make an appearance before the finale and return for the new season this fall. Sandra Oh, who left in 2014, isn't ruling out a return to Seattle. Pompeo says that as long as fans are loving it, the show will stay on the air. So basically, we'll be checking into Grey Sloane Memorial forever.

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This Girl Claps Back The Idea That Women Should Be Smaller Than Men

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Women come in all shapes and sizes and one beautifully outspoken girl won't waste a minute on anyone who thinks otherwise.

When 20-year-old Bekkah came across a tweeted gif of a man scooping a woman up into his arms alongside text romanticizing her small size, she decided to respond by challenging the stereotype.

"When she's small enough for you to do this to her," @GirlThatsSlim posted beneath the gif of a couple doing that romantic lift move we're all more than familiar with now thanks to movies like Dirty Dancing and Crazy, Stupid, Love.

Though he later followed up that tweet with a second saying, "but at the same time, shit I want a girl who can do that to me," Bekkah felt his statement could use a counterpoint on behalf of all the tall girls in the world.

"She doesn't need to be small, he just needs to be strong enough," she responded. The internet wholly approves. At press time, her response racked up more than 72,000 likes and more than 38,000 retweets.

"I know a girl doesn't need to be small to be lifted by a man," Bekkah told BuzzFeed News. "I'm 5 foot 9!" Thus, she explained to the site, she tweeted her response in the hopes of prompting @GirlThatsSlim and his followers to "look at the original tweet from a different perspective." And it worked, with many Twitter users jumping to applaud her statement.

Of course, some disagree with her, largely citing awkwardness, but most of their arguements seemed to lean on the optics of the situation. Frankly, who cares how it looks?

Bekkah stands by her statement.

And don't worry: @GirlThatsSlim maintains a good sense of humor about it all. He told BuzzFeed that the reaction seemed a bit of a double standard, saying "Why does a man have to meet a woman's standards by being 'strong enough' but a woman can't be 'small enough'? Double standards." His only real complaint remains that Bekkah got more retweets than he did. That sounds about right.

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Marc Jacobs Reveals The History Of The OTHER Carrie Bradshaw Dress

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Few things are more iconic or relatable than Sex and the City’s opening credits. Carrie Bradshaw, prancing around Manhattan in her white tutu and pink cami combo, feeling herself and her look, till she gets splashed with gutter water by a passing bus. Maybe not all of us get a photo of ourselves emblazoned on said bus, but Carrie twirling around in her tutu with the look of ultimately crushed hope on her face is hella real.

What effect would a more polished Carrie have on that memorable scene? It turns out we get to find out, as an alternate opening sequence was released this week. In it we see her strutting through Midtown in a powder-blue A-line shift dress with a cerulean clutch and white shoes (we assume they’re Manolos, natch), only to stumble on her own two feet. Carrie gracefully catches herself, but not without the look of a very bruised ego. The dress is somewhat more proper, and would almost be something worn by the show’s archetypal princess, Charlotte.

But that dress! Let’s get back to that dress. Marc Jacobs shared some images on his Instagram of the dress and it turns out it was from his Spring 1998 collection, during the height of late-nineties minimalism. In fact, it was modeled by Kate Moss on the runway. Its perfect darting at the waist down to the knee-length hemline hints at Jacobs’ passion for voluminous, theatrical skirts that would define his contemporary work today.

He also shared an undated image of Winona Ryder wearing this dress, along with her equally-influential pixie cut, in her late '90s raisin lipstick glory. Her grunge attitude paired with this prim piece recalls Courtney Love in her babydoll frocks from a few years earlier.

It may be a missed opportunity for Jacobs now, but Sarah Jessica Parker revealed in her interview on Here's The Thing with Alec Baldwin that the time, no fashion designers were willing to lend the show any clothes. It wasn't until that second season when Fendi jumped in with their baguette that the flood gates really opened — so if they were using that Marc Jacobs dress as a potential opening credits feature, odds are that the show's costumer, Patricia Field, either called in a favor or bought it herself.

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Pink Gets Real About Loving Her Body After Baby No. 2

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Pink is showing how silly things like scales and numbers can be. The singer's Instagram followers got a behind-the-scenes peek at her life after having a second baby, and she's kicking ass. In the photo, she's showing off post-workout, and the results are pretty amazing. But what's even more spectacular? Pink's breaking down what being healthy is about for her — and it's not about weight and BMIs.

"Would you believe I'm 160 pounds and 5'3"? By 'regular standards' that makes me obese. I know I'm not at my goal or anywhere near it after Baby 2 but dammit I don't feel obese. The only thing I'm feeling is myself. Stay off that scale ladies!"

Those "regular standards" that the she's is referring to? That would be the height and weight calculations mandated by the Centers for Disease Control for what healthy weights are. Plugging in Pink's measurements would put her at 28.3, which puts her right at the threshold between overweight and obese. Obviously, those standards don't take into account things like muscle mass. Her hashtags are pretty powerful, too. She added #feelingmyself and #GIJaneismyWCW.

For anyone curious, Pink's personal trainer, Jeannette Jenkins (who also trains Kelly Rowland and Serena Williams), posted Pink's entire fitness routine to her Instagram account also. It includes some modifications for new moms, like integrating power walking instead of jogging to deal with weak pelvic walls and taking things easy in the Pilates mat. Jenkins adds that at six weeks post-baby, Pink is already sprinting and doing standard push-ups.

We can see where Pink gets all her body-positive inspiration, too. In the regrammed photo, Jenkins reiterates Pink's thoughts on how misleading scales can be and what's most important is how you feel and what your body can do, not how it looks. "Never define your success on the scale alone. Always measure your body fat percentage & girth measurements (waistline, hips, thighs, arms, chest & neck) and take note of your clothing size & how your clothes fit," she wrote. "Measure your fitness parameters: Cardio, Muscular Endurance, Muscular Strength, and Flexibility. Journal and take note of how exercise makes you feel: happy, confident, powerful."

Pink gave birth to her second child, son Jameson Moon Hart, on December 26, 2016. We assume she'll be running marathons and taking over the world before Easter.

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It may be hard to believe, but little Luna Legend will celebrate her first birthday this month — and her mama Chrissy Teigen has already started getting ready for the celebration.

Teigen paid a visit to Duff's Cakemix in West Hollywood for a practice run at decorating Luna's birthday cake. At celebrity chef Duff Goldman's DIY cake shop, Teigen took a lesson from the pros, making a two-layer, pale peach and white cake covered with glittery gold polka dots and rainbow confetti sprinkles before posing with the finished product for a picture that she shared on Instagram. All in a day's work for a celebrity mom, no?

"Thank you @duffscakemix for teaching me to decorate a cake for Luna's upcoming bday! I'll be back to do the real one soon," she wrote. "Get the sprinkles ready."

The practice cake, topped with a number one candle, also featured colorful edges trimmed with mint green frosting balls and sugar pearls — something Teigen was quick to preemptively shut down potential mommy-shamers about. When InStyle tweeted out a pic of Chrissy with the cake, she immediately responded with a disclaimer for said potential shamers: "Just a practice cake! No beads for the real one, don't freak out, fellow moms!"

Why no beads for baby Luna's real first birthday cake? They are, quite simply, a choking hazard. That doesn't mean she can't have fun learning with them beforehand — something Andy Richter understands completely.

Teigen's preemptive defensiveness isn't coming out of nowhere; she is no stranger to unsolicited mommy advice. Earlier this month, she clapped back at Twitter users nitpicking Luna's clothing and emotions. In December, she once again tried to get ahead of the shame-game by prefacing a video of Luna with irritated, red cheeks with a caption explaining that the little one just had eczema. Back when Luna was first born, Chrissy faced the Twitter hate for simply going out to dinner with her husband, John Legend.

This time Teigen's fans have her back from the beginning. Many have already responded to her tweet with statements of support because sometimes the internet can be a friendly and funny place after all.

More of that, please.

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When Asked To Name Crayola's New Color, Twitter Did The Most

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This week, Crayola announced that Dandelion is being retired from its 24-count color box. While crayon purists bemoaned the decision, this makes some sense, given that dandelions are weeds, and their flowers don’t even stay that pretty yellow color for long. But Crayola took it a step further when they also announced that a new color is coming soon, which they described as “part of the blue family,” Time reports.

Naturally, Twitter took this news to its most extreme under the hashtag #NewCrayonColors and users lit up the timeline with jokes both hilarious and eye-rolling.

The reactions ranged from the most obvious…

...to Millennial sad babe humor.

And then to bitingly funny and poignant social criticism.

As you can imagine, there were lots of references to politics — and Trump’s unnatural tan got a lot of specific call outs.

After all that, we're left hoping Crayola’s new blue color is every bit as beautiful and inspiring as cerulean blue, a popular favorite.

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This $2 Face Mask Is Like An Instant Facial

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In an world Internet filled with real gold-leaf masks and $1000 facials, effective skin-care treatments sometimes feel a bit out of reach. And, sure, while there are definitely benefits to some of those splurges, we just can't justify paying the cost of rent on a single, one-and-done product.

But fear not: We've unearthed a seriously hidden gem from Memebox, one of the premiere online K-Beauty destinations right now. And it rings up at only $2. Yep, you read that right: It costs less than a one-way subway ride.

Secret-A's Soothing 3-Step Face Mask is what Memebox has accurately described as a "facial-to-go." The treatment starts with a bubble cleanser to remove leftover makeup and grime. The more you rub, the thicker and foamier the formula gets — and the cleaner your pores feel.

Next comes an ampoule serum, which is basically a concentrated liquid that begins working to calm and moisturize the skin with glycerin, aloe, and honey. After smoothing that on, I slapped the sheet mask over my face. The fitted cellulose mask fit perfectly (there's nothing worse than a flimsy mask that falls off at the slightest movement) and felt instantly soothing and relaxing.

After 15 minutes, I removed the mask and I pressed the excess liquid into my skin. My skin felt plumped, replenished, and completely rehydrated, which it desperately needed after weeks of walking to work in harsh winter winds. (I had to save that subway money somewhere.)

This mask is something that I would pay upwards of $15 for, considering the three-step process and instant results, but I won't argue with the $2 price point. That just means I'm fully justified in adding 10 to my cart the next time I place an order on Memebox (which, lets be honest, will probably be tonight).

Secret-A Soothing 3-Step Mask, $2, available at Memebox.com.

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Ikea Made Their Own Iron Throne & They Want To Know If You Would Sit On It

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Queen Cersei is the keeper of the Iron Throne at least for now — but Ikea has made its own Game Of Thrones inspired throne that they hope will encourage you to take a squat. Quite literally.

The Reddit user rpmdebslack  shared a photo from an Ikea that is a really big GOT fan. So big, in fact, that the store built its own Iron Throne. This one is a tad different than the one on the HBO series because it's not made of iron but porcelain.

As you can see, it's actually a toilet surrounded by white toilet brushes and the silver holders they sit in. Yes, this Ikea certainly has a sense of humor. Not to mention some serious decorating skills since this is a spot-on recreation of the real throne that was said to be made from 1,000 swords of the enemies of Aegon I Targaryen, the first king of the seven kingdoms.

If this wasn't funny enough, the store got especially punny with its description of the "throne." According to the Redditor, the Ikea posited a question to its customers in French: "Oserez-vous monter sur le trône?"

Photo: Courtesy of Reddit.

"'Monter sur le trône' literally means 'sitting on the throne,'" rpmdebslack explained. "It also means going to the toilet (figuratively). The question is hence: Would you dare sit on the throne (go to the toilet)?"

So, would you? We have to think the couple who just threw the most epic Game Of Thrones wedding would be down with this decor.

This isn't the first time Ikea has tried to make shoppers laugh with a little help from Game Of Thrones.Uproxx reported that last year, after everyone realized how Hodor got his name, an Ikea in Australia trolled their Facebook followers by using his famous last words to sell their Patrull door stop.

Unfortunately, for many fans, it was a little too soon, as one person commented, "I come to Ikea for affordable and aesthetically pleasing furniture/storage solutions not to have MY HEART RIPPED OUT."

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Jonathan Scott Of The Property Brothers Reveals The Reason He Got Divorced

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Jonathan Scott and Drew Scott are known for their Property Brothers show on HGTV, but the twins recently dished on their personal lives in People magazine.

It was Jonathan who dived into his previous marriage with an airline crew scheduler named Kelsey. The two married in 2007, causing him to move from Canada to Las Vegas, but things ended two years later. The 38-year-old says their young age and rushing into things led to the detriment of their marriage.

“We were young, and there was a rush going into it,” Scott told People. “She wanted to get married on 07/07/07, so it wasn’t something that naturally happened.”

But, as with most relationships, the marriage served as a learning experience for the Property Brothers star.

“I think that one of the biggest things I learned is that you can have two good people who are just not good for each other,” he said. “I’m glad that we found that out early. You know, we didn’t have kids or anything. And it really helped me understand what I wanted in a relationship.”

“I don’t think I would be in the position where I am now if I didn’t have the experiences I’ve had in the past,” he added.

Both brothers are currently in happy relationships. Jonathan told People he’s dating Jacinta Kuznetsov, a producer at his company Scott Brothers’ Entertainment. Meanwhile, Drew got engaged last December to his girlfriend Linda Phan, who is a creative director at their company.

"I’ve always been focused on work, so to have this beautiful woman in my life and knowing we’re going to get married, it’s amazing," Drew told People of Phan.

The couple, who dated for five years before getting engaged, have even talked about growing their family.

"I’m definitely looking forward to having kids," Drew said. "Linda and I have talked about it, and we’ve considered adopting."

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First-time parents often have a lot of questions. During my first pregnancy, I googled everything. "Is this lump in my armpit, or cancer?" (Probably not. Most likely it's an engorged milk duct). "Is excessive ear wax production a symptom of pregnancy?" (Yes, grossly, it is. #themoreyouknow). "Is it normal for my vulva to get this swollen?" (OK, for that one I called the emergency on-call doctor. The answer, in case you were wondering, was yes). "Is that the baby moving, or just gas?" (Depends). "Am I dying or just pregnant?" (Just pregnant.)

One obstetrician decided to deal with all those pesky pregnancy FAQs by making a resource for patients to read while waiting for their appointment. You know, to cut down on all that googling and self-diagnosis. The results are unexpectedly hilarious.

Found this at my OB appointment today. from BabyBumps

This OB pulls no punches, especially when it comes to advice for the partners of the pregnant person (though we kind of wish they hadn't assumed that the person pregnant was a woman and that the couple expecting the child together would be married).

The sign answers questions such as: I'm two months pregnant now. When will my baby move? With any luck, right after he finishes college. And Should I have a baby after 35? No, 35 children is enough. My personal favorite is the answer to the question My childbirth instructor says it's not pain I'll feel during labor, but pressure. Is she right? Yes, in the same way that a tornado might be called an air current.

True story: I was in so much pain during labor that I was puking. After nine hours, even with an epidural, I cried because I didn't think I could handle it any longer. Happily, they upped my pain meds and I successfully endured another eight hours!

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The good doctor pulls no punches when addressing the partners of their patients. Question: My wife is five months pregnant and so moody that she's borderline irrational. Answer: So what's your question? Question: Is there any reason I have to be in the delivery room while my wife is in labor? Answer: Not unless the word "alimony" means anything to you. Question: Our baby was born last week. When will my wife begin to feel and act normal again? When the kids are in college.

I think that's one of the biggest misconceptions about pregnancy and childbirth and childrearing: that somehow, the person who gave birth magically goes back to who they were before. In my experience, that's just not true. While I was pregnant, I had a complete and total meltdown about my husband eating leftovers I had in the fridge (like, threw myself on the floor sobbing, wailing, screaming). Now I have a three-year-old and a six-month-old and nothing is the same as it was. My moods aren't predictable, my body feels foreign, and I often recoil from my partner's touch for reasons that have nothing to do with him.

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Even though these questions were written in a lighthearted way, the truth behind them is real and necessary. Yes, many of us are anxious and worried about things we're experiencing, and that's normal and okay. But many of us (and our partners, if we have them) may also have unrealistic expectations of when our lives will go back to "normal." But the truth is, it won't, and if it does, it won't be for a very long time. It's a "new normal," and one that both parents have to accept and adjust to.

Many a truth is said in jest, something this OB knows all too well.

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